You are a child of God. You are precious. You are mine.
I read again today of the passing of another local teenager who committed suicide. The details of this heartbreaking news are immaterial; instead, what remains incumbent upon us as adults is trying to figure out why a young person on the very cusp of a long and seemingly abundant life would ever choose to end it and, more importantly, how to prevent this from ever happening again.
I can only imagine that parents of teenagers, upon hearing this kind of news, get that sick, I-want-to-throw-up feeling, wondering if their own child could ever conceive of doing something so horribly permanent, so heartbreakingly sad.
And, invariably, we all ask, “Why?”
I could jump to all kinds of conclusions about how kids these days are spoiled, and when things don’t go their way, they resort to all kinds of dramatic means to get attention (because some of them do). I could make asinine assumptions about how today’s kids have no structure at home, no boundaries, always get what they want but it’s never enough, or how drugs and alcohol wreak havoc with a child’s psyche, and that’s what probably caused this tragedy (because sometimes it does). Or I could foolishly point a finger at these kids’ parents, wondering what kind of home life the children had that would compel them to do this. Because, truthfully, all of these factors do have merit. One or all of these instances could be valid reasons why these tragedies have occurred.
But are these instances the cause, or is there an underlying motif playing with our children’s minds? And does sanctimoniously pointing out the faults of other families do anyone any good? Because whatever heartbreak was happening in these children’s lives has just been multiplied a hundred-fold in the suffering of their parents and families.
No, I believe it’s something more ominous altogether.
Sadly, even a child growing up in a loving, nurturing, and spiritual home can fall prey to suicide because, unfortunately, we live in a society that has devalued human life. The horrifying images of Americans being beheaded by the insidious evil that is Isis are broadcast on the internet for our kids to witness. Women and even underage girls can walk into a Planned Parenthood facility, have their babies viciously sucked out of their bodies, then walk out a couple of hours later after the staff has given them a collective high-five, praising them for their “brave” decision to end their babies’ lives. The violent nature of many of our kids’ video games doesn’t help lend credence to the sanctity of life; instead, it actually glorifies death, making it appear fascinatingly cool to kill and be killed.
These are today’s hardships, the yoke upon this generation’s shoulders.
Instead, what if our society valued every human being—from conception and beyond. To this end, we have some work to do. We must look for signs of depression in our kids and take seriously their anxieties, their worries, and their fears. We must dedicate ourselves to teaching every child that he or she is valuable beyond measure. Children must know and understand that God has created them in His image and that however insignificant they may perceive their lives to be, their very existence is a priceless treasure—a gift. We may not like everything they do, but no matter what, we love them. When they make mistakes, and they will make mistakes—some of them even colossal mistakes—it’s okay to lay down the law. To do anything less is unforgiving.
But most importantly, we must make sure that our children know that they are loved.
To our children, know this: You are a child of God. You are precious. You are mine. And I love you with every breath I take, with every beat of my heart, and I will continue to love you long after I am gone from this world.